PERSONAL GROWTH DIARIES #2: PLANNING MY DAYS
So, one of
the things that I have been trying to do quite recently is inculcating a lot of
planning into my life. Over the years, even since I started my productivity
journey, I have tried to plan my years, weeks, and days. I have also tried a
lot of things to ensure that I stick to the plans that I make for myself,
making use of sticky notes to write down the plans, flashcards, full physical
journals, and even got a few pages off a journal that I saw online, geared
specifically towards college students.
There was
even a time that I put my academic plans as the home screen wallpaper on my
phone, just to ensure that they were the first things that I saw the moment I
set my eyes on, and during the period that I was making use of flashcards,
since the clothes that I used to wear had no pockets, I found myself slipping
them into the pouch of my phone so that I could walk around with them in hand,
although sometimes, I ended up forgetting that they were even there, to begin
with.
I have also
tried to use fun names for my plans, like calling them plans of attack,
implementation intentions, missions, goals, ‘what to do’ etc. I even made, to
ensure that I did not slack off from my duties, a ‘not to do’ list, listing out
things that I did not want to do in excess, like spending too much time on
social media and the television and the likes.
Over the
years, however, I have also discovered something about myself. I hate planning.
Like, absolutely hate it. Most of the time, I have a rough sketch of a plan on
what my day would be like but putting it on paper is a hassle for me. That may
stem from the fact that I am dealing with the issue of overburdening myself
with tasks that I do not end up being able to complete before the end of the
day and then ending up feeling guilty about that fact. And as everyone may know,
there is a clear difference between just feeling guilty over plans that were
made in one’s mind and actually writing something down and having a reference
as to how unproductive you have been.
Nevertheless,
I usually try my best to write my plans early in the morning, which is what is
advisable, of course. But the problem is, at that point, due to the fact that I
am a morning person, I am rejuvenated, feel alive, and I have no idea of the
vitiating factors that may come into my life, and that may end up resulting in
my day being so warped that I would not be able to finish the tasks that I have
set out for myself.
That has
been a problem for me at this period of time. At this point, the federal
universities in Nigeria are on strike and so I have left my private residence
in school and I am back to staying with my parents. And if there is one thing
that I can say, it is that it is so much easier to plan one’s day and stick to
those plans when one is in school than when one is at home. In school, the
timetable has already made your day pretty organized and all that is left is to
chip in some more things that you would like to do in between or after the set
structure of the school timetable. You also know what extracurriculars that you
would be engaged in, and know almost exactly how your day would go. Your day
going completely awry from what you have organized is something that happens
very rarely.
But when at
home, I wake up each morning, the day being a completely blank slate, having
completely no idea what may pop in, what tasks I may be expected to do, what
emergencies may pop in that may demand my time, and that tends to make me spend
so much time planning the day, only to then end up at the end of the day,
completely disoriented, and having no idea how time and things that came up
managed to completely swallow up my time.
For
instance, I came home yesterday after church planning to actually create a blog
post. But the moment I stepped into the house, my mother decided that we had to
engage in spring cleaning because it was almost Easter and that we would be
having visitors coming very soon.
That was all
that it took to completely mess up my day. By the time I was done with the
cooking and the cleaning, it was late in the afternoon and I was feeling so
exhausted that I went to the first bed I could find, lay my head on it, and had
the longest siesta that I have had in a very long period of time. And then, by
the time that I got up, I had an online meeting that I had to attend in the
evening which I had to attend whilst both preparing another cooking and also
doing another typing. I had no time at all to do any academic reading, read any
of the self-help books that I usually try to read daily, and no time to even
begin writing any blog post. So yeah, yesterday, I really did not accomplish
much, although I have to say that the house is completely set for the Easter
celebration that is to begin by Thursday.
Although I
have to say that not all days are like that, there are a lot of days that tend
to be like that for me at home. However, I have had glorious days, especially
during the time when my siblings were at school, and I was not sent out to do
anything, when I could spend all the time I wanted seating at my desk and doing
all the work that I wish to. But when I have days like that, it really is a
frustrating experience, and most of the time, the thought of the fact that
there could be other things coming up that could potentially ruin all plans
that I have set out for the day, is enough for me to lose all motivation that I
have to even set out the time to plan it.
But, a lot of the time, I still force myself to do so, and there are a lot of reasons why I do that:
1. Have you ever had this feeling, when you wake up a fresh morning, only to realize that you had managed to be a day past the deadline of an essay competition that you have been researching and planning to write on, or that you had been planning to write an application to join a particular club or organization or some internship and you had just managed to miss the deadline for that? And then you end up feeling guilty and angered with yourself because you knew that you had planned and wished to write the essay and join the organization or participate in the internship and you cannot believe that you were stupid enough to miss something as important as that?
I have and it sucks. I have felt that feeling so many times that I got
completely tired of it. That was the main reason why I began writing plans for
the week, writing important applications that I needed to fill, plus writing
down the dates of their deadline because I have realized that most of the time,
just taking a screenshot of the flier and saving it in my gallery, even under a
separate folder, titled ‘things to work on’ is hardly enough to get me going on
the tasks.
And then
after that, when writing the things that I have set out to do for the day, I
carefully chip in times in which to work on the tasks at hand, because if I do
not, I have found that I tend to stay up till 11:50 pm, sweating and hoping
that the internet works for me as I ram down on the keyboard. And if you are
like me and have had days just like this, especially here in Nigeria, then you
should know that these days are the exact points in time in which the internet
decides to turn against you, and decides to mess up till it is like, 12:04 the
next day.
I hate days
in which I feel disorganized and have to work last minute to get things done,
things that I had all the time in the world to get done previously, or even do
not have the chance to put in that last-minute work because I have managed to
jerk out of my bed by like 4:00 am the next day.
So planning
is not one of my favourite things to do, but I hate missing out on
opportunities even more than I hate planning. So I silence all the cries of the
limbic system in my body, pushing me to start the day with no plans and flow
with the waves, and actually get the planning done.
2. Academic
planning may be the only form of planning that I find tolerable, and may even
enjoy doing. Maybe it is because I do so during the time that I have the most
control of my days. Or maybe it is due to the fact that I have set out a sort
of planning that works for me.
Unlike what
most conventional books and academic advisers teach, I do not have some sort of
timetable that I set for the day, because I have tried such and it just does
not work for me. I have realized that it is almost impossible for me to stick
to a timetable that sets out the subjects to read and time to be dedicated to
reading for it for an entire semester, because the likelihood is that I may
only go ahead with what I have set out for myself like 10% of the time, not by
choice, but because of the certain things that tend to pop up during the school
days, just like quizzes or competitions or meetings that may tend to make me
deviate from time to time.
So what I do
is that instead, I set weekly academic goals for myself, highlighting the
sections of the textbook that I would like to study and beginning the week from
Monday, so that if there is anything that forces me not to meet my goals during
the weekdays, I can finish it on the weekend. Then I make a list of all the
topics that I have for each course of study, tabulating and making three
sections for each of the subjects that I plan to deal with i.e. read, notes,
and cases learned (law student stuff). And then if I am done with each of them,
I give a tick mark, and hence it is very easy for me to see how far I have
progressed with my studying. And I find it very easy to challenge myself to do
more by the time that I tabulate my academics like that.
3. Have you
ever had the feeling, like, just randomly in the middle of the day, like you do
not know what to do, whilst at the back of your mind, you know that there are a
lot of things that you have not yet done?
Well, even
up till now, there are times that such happens to me. And then I feel sort of
sluggish, whilst I have the load of the responsibilities that I have not even
started on, weighing just at the back of my head. I have found that whenever I
have that feeling and do not have something to remind me that I have targets
that I plan to reach before the day runs by, especially when there is no
upcoming deadline in view, it is very easy for me to relax and whip out my phone
and then realize forty-five minutes later that I have managed to waste
forty-five minutes of my life, even though I am well aware of the fact that I
have a lot of things to do that I have not even begun to bother with doing.
But when I
have my list, especially when it is just nearby, I can just stretch my eyes,
and boom, I get the motivation to stand up and do something except on those
rare days when my energy and will to do anything are completely wasted.
Hence, I
have found that with a clear plan of what I am to do for each day, it is very
easy for me to find reasons to be productive spend the rest of the day
productively as I have externalized all that is waiting for me to a sheet of
paper, and have not just left it hanging at the back of my mind.
Again, I
still think that the act of actually sitting down to make plans for each day is
a habit that can be as difficult for me as exercising tends to be, and I have
not been very consistent with it, am usually more consistent during the school
time or during those few holiday days that I spend before I return home than
during the periods when I just have a long stretch of time and have the
knowledge that I may end up not even doing the things that I want to do with
that time.
And I know
that there are certain self-help authors that talk about how easy and
pleasurable it is for them to make to-do lists and it is for them to tick off
the list
But I do not
deny that even in my inconsistency, which is something that I am seriously
working on, I have found that planning my days have helped me to achieve a lot
of things that I would have not achieved otherwise. Things like being able to
work towards artificial deadlines that I have set for myself, being able to
find the motivation to do certain difficult things simply because I have
written down that I had to do them in the day that I had set out for them and
being able to have physical evidence each day that I have worked on, and have
accomplished something, are just a few benefits that I have found comes with planning
my day.
In case you have been wondering whether it is worth it to
actually get a planner and join the set of people that plan their days, weeks,
months, years and decades, I would say that it is an activity that would
definitely be useful for you, especially if you are the type that has chaotic
days.
1 comments
I dislike being called a last minute person and I guess that keeping a daily written plan of activities will help. However, it requires a lot of discipline to keep such.
ReplyDeleteBut really, you can only have all of your time to yourself in ideal out of the world situations. I guess that in a social world like ours, u have to keep in mind that other people and other activities will require some of your time so we all need to make some room for other unexpected events in our daily planning. Cheers to a great read.