PERSONAL GROWTH DIARIES #3- LOOSENING UP AND TAKING BREAKS
In every
human brain, we have what is known as the limbic system, a system, which,
according to Chris Bailey in his book, “The Productivity Project”, is the
emotional, instinctual part of your brain that includes, amongst other things,
our pleasure centres and pushes us to give in to emotions and temptations. It
is the limbic system that pushes us to spend hours on social media or
television, even with the awareness that there is something important that we
need to do. It pushes us to procrastinate, to wait till the very last minute
before we begin to engage in tasks. It makes us go to parties, indulge in food,
and so on.
The limbic
system is only interested in the activities that are deemed as pleasant to us
at the moment. It does not consider the future or any other thing other than
our present comfort.
In contrast
to this is a part of the brain known as the prefrontal cortex, which is the
logical part of our brain that pushes us to do certain things that result in
our productivity and development. It is the part of our brains that plans,
calculates, and makes decisions. It innovates and finds solutions for
problematic situations and is located in the front of our heads. It is also the
core of creative thinking and innovation, which is what is responsible for our
plans on how we can improve any aspect of our lives. The thoughts that occur
inside our prefrontal cortexes ultimately define who we are as individuals.
It requires
discipline for us to allow the prefrontal cortex to lead us and guide our
decisions, for most of the time, giving in to it means letting ourselves do the
hard things, the things that most of the time, we would rather not do.
And these two systems undergo a series of battles every single day with every single action or decision that we take, with the limbic system pushing us to relax and cave in to our desires and cravings and the prefrontal cortex trying to push us into making the right and logical decisions. The constant struggle for dominance between the emotional limbic system and the logical prefrontal cortex is what guides the decisions that we make throughout the day. It is also what makes us human.
With every
decision that we take, one of these systems takes dominance over the other.
When we choose to move to the next episode of a movie instead of studying, that
is the limbic system taking over. But when we decide to wake up early despite
the urge to ignore the alarm; that is the work of the prefrontal cortex.
But
there is no way that one of the systems can be in control for the entirety of a
person’s life. No matter how productive we wish to be, there are times in which
a system takes dominance over the other and vice versa. The only difference is
this, when we let the prefrontal cortex take control more often, we tend to be
more successful than those that let the limbic system take control more often.
The major
key to productivity boils down to this. Most of the time, we know what we ought
to do to be successful, and whilst it is good to read development books, it is
not that much of a necessity per se to make a person know that the person has
to study to be successful or work hard to earn more. What I believe self-help books
do is provide some sort of easier way to get these things done, and provide
proven steps to make it easier for people to give in to the demands of the
prefrontal cortex.
However, the
problem is that the prefrontal cortex is a lot weaker than the limbic system.
If we are not actively thinking at any given moment, the limbic system will
dominate over the prefrontal cortex, and we will start a mental journey towards
comfort. In fact, engaging ourselves with constructive and creative thinking in
general, is hard work.
Hence, the
limbic system, most of the time, has a stronger hold on people than the
prefrontal cortex. This is because it is easier, mind-numbing, to do some of
the easier things that it craves, easier to slip in and let loose, to work on
autopilot, than to perform the sorts of tasks that are demanded by the
prefrontal cortex.
The limbic
system in the brain is also what I believe contains what is biblically known as
‘The Flesh’, which is what we Christians know as what pushes us to do sinful actions
such as sexual immorality, impurity, debauchery, hatred, discord, jealousy,
rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, etc.
Now, whilst not all aspects of the limbic system or activities associated with
it can be said to be sinful, our sinful actions with regard to others do involve
the limbic system when they manifest our lack of self-control over the urges of
the limbic system. Now, do not get this wrong, the drives targeted towards our
present comfort, which is what is associated with the limbic system, are not
wrong, but what is wrong is when, as a result of these drives, we perform
sinful actions.
Hence,
whilst procrastinating or deciding to take a well-deserved break or a vacation,
all actions that are associated with the limbic system, are not sinful in and
of themselves, adultery, committed because we do not properly control our
sexual desires or false testimony, given out of either fear or anger by a
person who chooses to lie and feel good rather than accept the consequences of
speaking truthfully are sinful actions which can be associated with the limbic
system.
We all have
found ourselves in a lot of situations in which the limbic system has taken
control of our brains for hours or even days at a stretch, and as long as we
are not sinning or halting ourselves spiritually (such as instances when our
limbic systems prevent us from performing certain necessary spiritual
activities or letting the limbic system prevent us from moving forward in
life), I say that there is nothing wrong with loosening up and giving the gears
to it every once in a while. If we used the logical part of the brain all of
the time, we would never have fun or let go and do things that excite us
because we would rather use that time to work and do activities that are deemed
productive.
I have, as
part of my productivity journey, been trying my best to do all that I can to
make use of my prefrontal cortex more than my limbic system for most of my day,
and that has boosted the amount of time that I spend in productive activities
and drastically reduced the time that I spend doing things that my limbic
system craves, like scrolling through social media or binging movies.
But there
are times, though, that, though not in a sinful way, I let the limbic system
take over completely. These usually occur during the beginning of every holiday
or immediately after the exams, in which I take at least a week to do whatever
it is that my heart craves, mostly binging books and movies, and I think, most
of the time, that I have more than merited the break.
But what I
have realized is that more recently, I have begun to feel guilty whenever I
take a break from my work, even when it is an inevitable break as a result of
some social responsibilities.
For
instance, this Easter break has been sort of frenzied for me, but not due to
work. Not only did my uncle have a big ceremony that took an entire day, but we
had guests come over to the house and for the time that they stayed, it was
very rowdy. Also, as is routine during the Easter period, we had a lot of
outing days, which I made sure I did not miss for the sake of work.
But that was
not entirely the reason why I sort of relegated my work to the background,
apart from those that I just had to do to get my monthly pay. Truth be told, I
let my limbic system take the ride for almost the entirety of the three whole
days of Easter, and for that period, not only did I not give any attention to
my academics and very little attention to my writing, but I completely disrupted
my sleep routine, sleeping and waking up late, even though I am an early riser,
eating as much as I wanted, doing whatever it was that felt good at the moment,
and generally having a really good time.
Of course,
this is common for most people during the holiday season. I would say, as a bit
of advice; that people should work intentionally towards having the time to
take a big break and have some of the fun that they deserve. Life is short,
after all, and not all of our time should be spent working.
But mine was
not intentional at all. I did not plan to spend three days doing essentially
nothing, it just happened and I took certain questionable decisions that led to
it.
For
instance, on the night before my three day period of letting the limbic system
take gear, I was looking for books related to a particular mental illness that
I wanted to know more about in my favourite online library when I stumbled upon
a particular book that caught my interest because I remembered seeing such a
cover before somewhere. Before getting the books that I needed, I decided that
there was nothing wrong in downloading the book (which I later found out was
the first book of a series), and then that night, I decided that there was
nothing wrong in having a look at it. Let’s just say that I slept way past my
usual time that night (which is one thing that I particularly regret, for it
had its effects on my being able to find time to do the spiritual activities
that I normally do first thing very early in the morning).
And then the
next day, it was like that for me. I spent the entire day alternating between
being a party usher and food server in my uncle’s ceremony and reading the
book. It would have ended that day, but because it was a trilogy, I ended up
craving knowledge of how the book ended and spending the remaining two days
alternating between low-level work, outings, and the novels. I had a blast
those days, even though there was a layer of guilt that I tried to ignore but
that did not leave the back of my mind.
But the
moment I dropped the novels, the guilt that I had been ignoring hit me like a
whirlwind, and I spent a long time pondering on the things that I should have
done, that I could have done during those periods that I spent wasting my time
on the books. Of course, one of the things that really weighed on me was the
fact that the books robbed me of my sleep schedule and hence, the special time
that I used to carve out for myself, very early in the morning, for my
spiritual activities. That, to me, was the sin of omission, as I had let myself
sacrifice a special time that I should have used for the lord, shortening it,
just to please my desires.
But then
after asking the Lord for forgiveness, I decided to reflect and see whether I
could get any life lessons from what had just happened to me. And there were
quite a few that I gained from the experience.
1.
There
is nothing wrong with planning a time to retreat and get some time off to
relax, reflect and have fun. Ever since I started reading self-help books, I
have come across a lot of honest authors proclaiming for a fact that they have
had moments in which they have felt guilty about taking any breaks or having
fun at all. Sometimes, they have claimed that their quests towards total
productivity have made them engage in work until they burned out. I for one
have heard people warn me a lot of times about the likelihood of my getting
burned out due to overwork, and there is a part of me that feels like these
three days of madness were a result of some form of burnout as I had been
exerting myself for weeks before that point in time. So if you feel as though
you deserve a break, by all means, plan the break, take that necessary break
and have the time of your life. You will feel, and I can say this from
experience, a lot more rejuvenated by the time you get back to work.
2.
Sometimes,
your lack of self-control and ability to control the drives of your limbic
system can be used by the devil as weapons against your spiritual growth:
Although I did not fall into any of the above-listed sins, I did let my limbic
system drive me towards choosing fun over a list of activities that I engaged
in at night so that I could have some extra personal time with God. But for
some of you, it may be that your limbic system pushes you to sin in order to satisfy
your flesh and feel good. Remember that as Christians, no matter what, there is
a level of self-control that is expected and required of us. The drives of the
limbic system can come in form of temptations and overcome them, we need to
develop healthy habits of thought (Romans 12:2) and shun thought patterns that
cause us to dwell on, and subsequently, act on sinful desires.
3.
Apart
from times when you need rest and need to have some fun, caving in to the
drives or desires of the limbic system for most of your days will always lead
to negatives consequences: These can come in the form of sin, laziness, lack of
productivity, procrastination, which either have negative consequences on our
current lives or the life to come. Remember that no matter what it is that you
feel, you need to find ways to subdue the limbic system so that you can achieve
and fulfill your purpose in life.
Disregarding
the limbic system can be very difficult. But it is destructive to give into it
most of the time. Yes, having fun and placing yourself in a level of comfort
and pleasure is good for our wellbeing, but in all, we should ensure that we
practice moderation, something that I failed to do during that time. Never let
the limbic system be what guides you throughout your days and be guarded
against the periods of time when you begin to work on autopilot. Note that even
when our limbic system conveys strong motivations to act in a particular way,
we still have the ability and responsibility to think and act in a manner that
pleases God.
REFERENCES
1.
The
Productivity Project by Chris Bailey
2.
Why
Emotions Matter - The Limbic System vrs the Prefrontal Cortex by Helina
Mellanen. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-emotions-matter-limbic-system-vrs-prefrontal-cortex-mellanen
3.
The
Limbic System and Christian Sanctification by Tony Jelsma. https://inallthings.org/the-limbic-system-and-christian-sanctification/
2 comments
Girl, do not be too hard on yourself. You needed the break and no need feeling guilty.
ReplyDeleteWill definitely keep that in mind, thanks
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